Thursday, January 10, 2008

Rainy Day Snuggles

As you all know, I love my daughter dearly. I love her kisses, her hugs, her snuggles, and even her abuse, even though I don't necessarily enjoy the abuse.

When Tree Faerie wakes up in the morning, I put her in bed with me for a few minutes for snuggles before we start our day. I change the TV channel to Disney, and we watch Playhouse Disney. This snuggle time usually doesn't last very long, maybe 10 minutes at the most, because Tree Faerie usually wants to climb off the bed to go chase the cat or DTTF or something.

This morning was different. She called to me from her bed just a few minutes after 7, so I grabbed her and put her in bed with me. DTTF made his coffee then headed to the bathroom. I flipped the channel to Disney and started watching My Friends Tiger & Pooh. Tree Faerie snuggled against me, and while we snuggled there watching TV, I heard thunder. I couldn't think of a more perfect place to be at that moment, except to have DTTF join us.

My wish was soon granted, even though I knew he didn't really have time to snuggle. Tree Faerie was just being so cute and lovable that she was impossible to resist. We could have stayed that way all day if given the opportunity.

Of course, after about 20 minutes, Storm came in, so Tree Faerie wanted down to go chase the cat. We got up and about after that, but my entire day has been absolutely wonderful because I had extra snuggle time this morning.

Pay Per Post

I’ve decided to try my hand at a new endeavor to help alleviate my stress regarding my finances. We’ve all heard about someone supporting their family by blogging, but most of us figure it is way beyond hope. A few months back, I heard about a site called Pay Per Post while bouncing around Bloggerland. I can’t remember where I found it, but I was immediately intrigued. I checked it out and discovered that my blog wasn’t quite old enough. I didn’t really think much more about it until I recently received an email from the parent company, Izea. Izea hosts several things, including the Blogger Choice Awards and Pay Per Post.

I blog to help streamline my thoughts, to touch base with other parents, and to practice my writing. If I can make money while doing so, why not give it a shot? I mean, if you were given the opportunity to make money while breathing, would you say yes? My answer will always vary based on the circumstances involved and the fine print. If none of my values are compromised and I’m sure I’m not being scammed, then my answer would be, “Yes! Bring on the money!”

I read all the fine print. Payment is based on opportunities you select to write about, and you know how much you will be paid for that post up front. Pay Per Post holds the money until all terms have been met, which usually includes a time period that the post has to be active, then pays via PayPal. So the turn-around time may not necessarily be lightening fast, but all the research I’ve done points to this being a good opportunity.

I’m going for it. I’m willing to be paid to blog. For those of you who don’t really care about my Pay Per Post posts, I’ll make it easy on you – all my Pay Per Post posts will be blue, like this post, so you have the choice. Don’t worry – I’ll still keep posting my regular brain-dumps and exciting news here on a very regular basis. So, keep the comments coming! I’ll still be making regular visits to your sites, too!




Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Spoiled My Child

I'm guilty. I'll be the first to admit that I spoil my child, at least according to "the experts." I still have not night-weaned Tree Faerie. I also still nurse her to sleep. She still wakes up in the middle of the night to nurse. She still sleeps in my room. Sometimes she even sleeps in my bed, though only for short periods of time. I only bring her back to bed with me if I'm extremely tired or if I'm having a hard time getting her to go back down. I only keep her there until she starts moving around, a sign that she wants to be on her tummy instead of her side, at which point I can usually put her back in her own bed. My reason for putting her back in her own bed are completely selfish, though. I put her back in her bed so that I can sleep better.

Last night I actually put her to sleep in my bed by side-nursing. Tree Faerie just DID NOT want me to put her in her bed! Lately there have been several nights when she didn't want to nurse to sleep, so I put her in her bed, where she would fidget (but not fuss) around until she got comfortable, then she went to sleep. Last night was not one of those nights. She apparently wanted me to hold her.

Once I finally got her fully asleep, I put her in her bed, and she slept for 5 hours. Of course, when she woke up to nurse she didn't want to go back to her bed. She wanted to be held again, so I held her until she was fully back asleep, then I put her back in her bed. She slept for another 2 hours and woke up happy.

The more mothering experience I get under my belt the easier it is to not badger myself with what the experts think. Plus, there's always at least one expert out there that agrees with what I'm doing, and if I look hard enough, I can find that expert. Dr. Sears would tell me I'm a good mother.

Tree Faerie's pediatrician told me yesterday morning that I was made to be a mother. I was half expecting a lecture about not night weaning when I admitted to it, but none came. Of course, this is the woman who talked me into co-sleeping because I wasn't getting any sleep. I really need to stop beating myself up over other people's opinions, especially when I find what works for us.

It may take a while to change that habit...

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

12 Months - Happy Birthday, Tree Faerie!

Dear Tree Faerie,

It is so hard to believe that an entire year has gone by since the day of your birth. We made it! One of your daddy’s favorite stories to tell is of being discharged from the hospital with you. I don’t think he believed the nurse when she first told him he could take you home. We were nervous and scared yet excited and overjoyed. I cried all the way home because all the cars were entirely too close to us. Your disapproval of your first car ride was not helping matters any. When we finally got you home, I unbuckled you from the seat as quickly as possible so I could hold you close, comforting us both. I am sometimes still surprised by how much love I have for you. It doesn’t seem possible for one person to contain this much love (which may be why I feel on the verge of exploding sometimes)!

You finally got to meet your Aunt T, Uncle M, and your two cousins, CRK (2.5 years old) and CSK (2.5 months old). You and CRK had a great time playing together, though you are exhibiting signs of being a bully. You kept forcefully taking CRK’s pacifier away. The first time I saw you do it, I had a plate of food in my hands and was sitting next to your Nana. Your Nana just sat there and laughed while watching you try to take CRK’s pacifier while he tried to gently prevent you from doing so. I must admit that it was kind of cute, but I really don’t want you to grow up and be a bully. You can’t always have things just because you want them.

We do a great job of spoiling you, though. You came away like a bandit for Yule and Christmas. Tearing paper is now one of your favorite pastimes. There are more toys than I know what to do with. I’m still feeling a little overwhelmed about that right now, but I’ll have it figured out soon. You love having your choice of which toy to play with, so you certainly don’t mind the abundance.

One of your favorites is Lavender, the purple hippo you and Nana built at Build-A-Bear. It’s so cute to watch you hug and kiss Lavender. You even hug her close and pat her back, just like I do to you. Another favorite is your push-buggy shaped like a VW Bug. When you’re not being pushed in it, you like to push it yourself. Grams got you a gift that clearly shows what we have to look forward to in the future. She got you a cell phone toy that talks and plays music. It’s absolutely adorable to watch you walk around with the phone up to your ear and hear you just jabbering away – or at least it’s adorable at the moment. When you’re 14 it may not be so adorable…

You’ve completed your transition period into the toddler room and have now been in the toddler room a whole week! The teachers just love you, of course. I’m amazed by how well you follow directions and behave! I must be too lenient on you, because you don’t mind what I say as well as you do for your teachers. Even so, you’re a great kid at home, too. I have no real complaints.

Your First Birthday was this past Sunday, and Grams and Papaw drove up to spend it with you. I’m glad they decided to drive up the night before so they could be here when you woke up, because you had a surprise for us all after you woke up on your First Birthday. You took your First Steps! Not just one, but 4 or 5! You were standing up in front of Grams and you just toddled right to me! Daddy missed the first time, so of course I had to go get him up. When I told him, I could tell that he thought I was exaggerating, so after he got up I stood you in front of him. He held out his hands and you toddled to him. The look on his face was priceless! You’ve practiced off and on ever since then, but only if you’re not wearing shoes. If you’re wearing shoes, you still prefer to hold on to a finger.

Grams and I installed your new car seat while you were napping. The weather was perfect for it – 70 degrees and breezy. For January, that is unusual weather! We couldn’t get the seat installed rear-facing, which is how I would have preferred to install it for just a little while longer. Instead, we installed it forward-facing. The only thing that kept us from testing it out right then was you being asleep.

Later that afternoon, Nana came for our little party. We had fish sticks with macaroni and cheese because you LOVE macaroni and cheese. Then we opened presents, which of course means more toys, including a piano, a Mickey Mouse, and a pull-along puppy. Finally, we were ready for your first cupcake experience. I stuck a “1” candle on top of your cupcake and lit it. We turned out the lights and sang Happy Birthday to you, then I helped you blow out the candle. When I set the cupcake in front of you, you had a confused look on your face. I finally convinced you that it was okay to play with it, so you proceeded to remove all the icing and squish it. You finally put your fingers in your mouth and immediately decided you did not like icing and tried to wipe it off your tongue with the other hand, which also happened to be covered in icing. Thankfully you didn’t throw a fit, but the look on your face clearly said, “I am not thrilled with this!” You continued to play with the frosting and tried tasting it a time or two more, but you still weren’t crazy about the taste and refused to try the actual cake part.

After you put the icing in your hair, I gave you a bath, and then we saw Grams and Papaw off. You’ll get to see them again in a couple of weeks when we go visit Grams for her 50th birthday. I’m really glad they came up to see you for yours.

This past year has gone by so quickly, and you weren’t the only one growing. You have brought about a lot of good changes in me. Thank you for being so wonderful, Tree Faerie. I look forward to what the next year will bring.

Hugs, Kisses, and Lots of Love,

Mama

Monday, January 7, 2008

I have a Toddler!

Some people view the 1st birthday as the gateway to toddlerdom. Others view it as the moment the child takes his or her first steps.

My child experienced both on the same day, so I guess there's no question. I have a Toddler!

Now what do I do?

1st year letter coming soon and will contain a few more details about Tree Faerie's first steps.

Friday, January 4, 2008

Too Busy

January is ripening up to be an extremely busy month. We're only on Day 4, and I've put something on the calendar for EVERY weekend!

This weekend is Tree Faerie's birthday. We're just going to have a small party with us and the grandparents. Saturday I'm going to get the oil changed in the car, and to make things easy, I'm going to Wal-Mart so I can shop to my heart's content pick up a few essentials, maybe a small present or two for Tree Faerie, and hopefully her big Christmas/Birthday present - her car-seat. Every time I've been to Wal-Mart and tried to get the seat we want, there were not any on the floor and I was either in a hurry or couldn't find anyone to help me and gave up. I guess I should probably call and find out if they have any before I go again, right?

Next weekend does not hold any permanent plans, however the daycare has offered up another Parents Night Out. How can I pass up free child care from people my child already knows in a safe environment while I don't feel like I'm putting anyone out by asking them to watch my child? Granted, we usually go to the movies, so we end up spending between $20 and $40 while we get free child care.

The weekend of the 18th I would like to go to my mom's. Her 50th birthday is January 20th, and while the gift she's getting from us has to be taken care of in Memphis, I figured taking her granddaughter to see her would be a great additional present. We have yet to make the trek to her house because I'm a little afraid of the 4 hour drive with Tree Faerie. Maybe with her new car seat, she'll be happier. My two best friends from high school are talking about coming down to her house on Saturday. I haven't seen one in like 7 years, and the other in 8 or 9.

The weekend of the 25th, one of my best friends from high school (yes, one of the ones from the previous weekend) will be in town. She and her new beau will be in town Friday afternoon and will leave Saturday afternoon. We are making plans to meet up a couple of times while they're here.

At some point before the weekend of the 18th, I need to get my mom's present. I'm giving her a gift certificate for a massage from the wonderful massage therapist that I got a massage from in May. When I pick up the gift certificate, I am also going to get a massage for myself. I'm way past due for one, and when I got the $100 Christmas Cash from work, I knew I was going to use most of it for mom's gift. When I told DTTF about it, he told me to go ahead and get one for myself, too. Now I just have to make time for it.

Hopefully February will be a slower month to give me time to rest and possibly get some things off of my To Do list. I'm not holding my breath, though.

Thursday, January 3, 2008

Not My Place

When I entered Tree Faerie's classroom this morning to drop her off, the little girl that transitioned to the toddler room with Tree Faerie (let's call her L)was sitting in the floor screaming. I asked the head toddler room teacher, we'll call her Ms. J, if she was okay. Ms. J said she didn't know what was wrong with her and that she'd tried several things to comfort her, but nothing was working. Ms. J said when she tried to hold her to comfort her, L pushed her away and didn't want anything to do with Ms. J.

I felt bad for both of them, but I know that all babies have days like that. While I was snuggling Tree Faerie before leaving, I saw the head infant room teacher, Ms. D, looking in through the window.

Since I also know L from Ms. D's infant room, I know she has always taken a little longer to be comfortable with changes. She is 3 days older than Tree Faerie, however she's consistently hit all her milestones 2 months later than Tree Faerie. I thought that maybe L may need a bit more help transitioning.

I stopped by Ms. D's room before leaving, and Ms. D was really upset that Ms. J wasn't trying to comfort L. I came to Ms. J's defense by repeating what Ms. J had said to me when I asked, but Ms. D was still unsatisfied. She said that Ms. J doesn't like for them to peek in the windows or get involved with the care of the toddlers. From the way she was talking, it sounded like Ms. D was continually dissatisfied with the way Ms. J comforts the toddlers. Ms. D suggested that I say something to the director.

I refused for several reasons. 1) I'd much rather discuss things with the teacher first before taking it to the director. 2) I didn't actually see anything WRONG today. All babies have bad days, and Ms. J's assistant was running late this morning. Ms. J still had to take care of the other babies. 3) Since my first suggestion would be to possibly extend the transition period for L, I can't really make that suggestion since I'm not the parent.

On my way out the door, I stopped and peeked in the window. Ms. J saw me and gave me a look that I read to mean, "Is something wrong?" I gave her the biggest smile I could and waved.

I told DTTF about the encounter this morning, and he had pretty much the same perspective I had. While we were talking, it also occurred to me that part of the problem MAY BE the infant room teachers peeking in, especially in the first few weeks after transitioning. Maybe L is having a bit of separation anxiety from the infant room teachers, so when she sees them peeking in, she immediately wants to go to them. When that doesn't happen - meltdown. Part of the reason I think this may be a factor is because when Tree Faerie saw Ms. D this morning through the window, she wanted to go to Ms. D.

I will not be discussing this with the director at this point, though if I continue to see this happening with L, I may mention my thoughts to Ms. J, specifically the part about the infant room teachers peeking in. If Ms. D brings it up to me, I will definitely tell her my thoughts on it. I know the infant teachers love those babies, but when it's time for them to move on, sometimes distance is best after the child has transitioned to the new room, at least until the baby has adjusted to the new room.